Getting Married at St Peter and St Paul, Chaldon

Congratulations on your engagement. We are delighted that you are thinking of getting married in church.

People choose a church wedding for a whole range of reasons, perhaps because of tradition or the attractive building. However, the most important reason for getting married in church is that you will be making your wedding vows in the sight of God and asking God to be part of the whole of your married life together.

For more information about Church of England Weddings please visit The Church of England website.

Before a wedding can take place there are various legal formalities to be completed and there must be time for marriage preparation. We hold an annual preparation morning in January.

To qualify to marry at St Peter and St Paul you must live in the Parish (you can check which parish you live in on the website A Church Near You) or fulfil one of the following the following criteria:

  • have lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
  • have been baptised in the parish
  • have been confirmed and your confirmation was entered in the register of confirmations for a church (this will usually be the case if you were prepared for confirmation in the parish)
  • have at any time regularly attended to normal church services in the parish
    church for a period of at least 6 months and are one the electoral roll.

OR

One of your parents, at any time after you were born:

  • has lived in the parish for a period of at least 6 months
  • has regularly gone to normal church services in the parish church for a period of at least 6 months

OR

That one of your parents or grandparents:

  • was married in the parish

Marriage after Divorce

At St Peter and St Paul we understand that some marriages fail and we try to help people rebuild their lives in new relationships. There are some circumstances in which marriage in Church after a divorce may be possible. If not, we can usually offer a service of blessing after a civil marriage. If you have been divorced and would like to discuss the possibility of being married a second time in church or having your civil marriage blessed, please do not hesitate to get in touch.

Same Sex Marriage and our LGBTQ+ Friends

It is a great sadness to me that we have not yet achieved equal marriage within the Church of England and I continue to act and pray for full inclusion.

In the meantime, I am able to offer Prayers of Blessing for LGBTQI+ couples.

If you would like to discuss with me how the church can honour and celebrate your relationship, please contact me to discuss this further.

I am also delighted to be able to offer services of Renaming.

Rev. Helen Burnett

Wedding fees (from January 2024)

Wedding Fees

Parochial Church Fees
Publication of Banns of Marriage £36.00
Banns certificate issued at time of publication £18.00
Marriage Service £531.00

Parish Fees
Heating charge £50.00
Verger’s fee £110.00

Additional Extras
Bells £20.00
Choir (£20 per member of choir) approx. £120.00
Use of Organ £60.00
Organist’s fee £110.00

PLEASE NOTE
If one or both of you live outside the parish you will need to get your Banns read in that church (or churches), too.  A fee is payable for this.
Fees must be paid at least one month before the wedding date.

Blessings of civil weddings, renewal of vows and thanksgivings for Civil Partnerships

Parish Fees
Service £290.00
Heating charge £50.00
Verger’s fee £110.00

Additional Extras
Bells £20.00
Choir (£20 per member of choir) approx. £120.00
Use of Organ £60.00
Organist’s fee £110.00